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Relationships Under Construction made a huge difference in my life when it was needed the most. As an incoming freshman at Ohio State, I wasn’t prepared for the temptations that I was going to be exposed to on a daily basis. When I heard that RUC was looking for students to teach abstinence education to innercity students, I thought that it would be great to be able to make a difference in other people’s lives. Not only did I get that chance, but I also was blessed with the differences that it made in my own life. I had already made some bad choices when it came to boys, but RUC showed me the type of relationship that I really deserved. I learned how to build the foundations of a good relationship. This completely changed my life. Without RUC, I wouldn’t be where I am right now. I’d probably be stuck in the cycle of one bad relationship after another. Instead, I recently got married to the love of my life. I never dreamed that I would be this happy just out of college. RUC showed me the dream that I deserved to have when it came to relationships, and because of that, I made it happen. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them (Henry David Thoreau).”
– Eden Barnett
Relationships Under Construction has impacted my life in so many ways and on so many levels. I am not a perfect person by any means, but I feel like God placed certain people in my life at the exact right time to keep me on track (He seems to always have a way of doing that =). As a freshman at OSU, I was on the verge of losing my path, until Catherine Wood walked into our dormitory and offered the opportunity of a lifetime: a paid internship mentoring youth and teaching an amazing abstinence curriculum, Relationships Under Construction. On top of that, she was willing to pick us up for all events and mentor us along the way. She was willing to take a chance on us to help change the world. The knowledge we were provided became so important to us interns that we couldn't resist sharing the good news: we are human, we make mistakes, but we are capable of being in control of our own healthy futures. I had never come across someone as caring and genuine as Catherine since leaving my hometown. Then shortly after meeting Catherine, we met Starr. An equally driven and determined woman who had seen it all in her time; she helped us all to stay on track and to get our message across more effectively. You are human, you are capable of self-control, you are beautiful, you are you, and that is perfect. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't make you feel that way every single day of your life. Know your worth. These are just a few messages I take with me on my constant journey of spreading good news to people of the world. Thank you Relationships Under Construction for providing me with an outlet.
– Sheila M. Kollar
I first became involved with Relationships Under Construction as a sophomore in college. I was looking for a service project to participate in but was having trouble finding a cause that I truly believed in. Another student was already working with RUC and after talking to her about all that they do I knew I had found what I was looking for. I had already made the decision to remain abstinent until I got married and the idea of going around and spreading that same message to my peers at The Ohio State University was wonderful! On a campus where students primarily choose to live the partying lifestyle, it was exciting to bring a different message of purity to a campus that really needed to hear it. Working with RUC also gave me a source for accountability. At the time I began working with RUC I was dating my husband. It is so much more meaningful when you can tell others a message that you yourself are practicing. I was determined to hold fast to my commitment and RUC helped keep me accountable to that decision. Now happily married, I am so thankful that I saved myself for my husband, Greg. It is my sincere hope that RUC will continue to encourage other teens and young adults to do the same thing.
– Rhyan Williams
I have chosen to be abstinent until marriage not only because of the protection of my physical being but also because of my need to form a trusting relationship. In my experiences with relationships in general and even my small experience with romantic relationships, I’ve found that they come and go, and people don’t always respond in the way you’ve scripted in your head to the different situations that arise. Having sex, for instance, might change a relationship in a way that I might not have thought it would. Without a commitment that I can trust and verify as solid, the uncertainties of the aftermath of getting more intimate with someone becomes great. I really appreciate Beyonce’s words when she says, “If you like it then you should have put a ring on it.” If the relationship is worth it, then the trust I need would be built through a solid commitment and then sex can be enjoyed afterwards. My experience with RUC in high school as a board member and volunteer was invaluable. I got the chance to listen to different stories from teachers, parents and students alike telling about how important the message of abstinence is. In my own personal life, the information and experience I received from RUC helped me realize that I need to be different from the majority of my generation in order to live life as fully intended. I also realized how important it was to take the values I had learned and bring it to those around me.
– Allison Caudill
This week changed me. While I believe that people should choose to do what they want, I have chosen to stay sexually abstinent until marriage or I find a life partner. I didn’t believe that until I was really taught.
– 9th Grade Female, Franklin County
Your presentation to our school was exceptional. I was very impressed by her methods of teaching. I believe I speak for my entire class in saying that I learned a lot.
– 9th Grade Male, Franklin County
I unfortunately gave away my virginity a while ago and when I heard that a speaker was coming, I was mad that we didn’t have a speaker sooner. But after hearing it, I feel better and am going to pledge abstinence. I want to feel good about myself. I know it will make me healthier and happier. Thank you!
– 9th Grade Female, Franklin County
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