Testimonials



As a 17 year old young man, I've had to make some pretty tough decisions; some good and others not so good. Among the good decisions I've made, was the decision to remain abstinent until my wedding night. I've seen the drama that some of my friends and family had to go through who didn't and I'm not trying to go that route. However, although I'm doing pretty well with the virginity thing, I almost slipped by getting caught up into the pornography thing. I couldn't believe how easily I got pulled in by that raunchy stuff. I mean I knew that I shouldn't have been watching that mess, but it was like once I saw something it would stay in my head forever. One day I was riding with my brother and he asked me if I have ever seen any porn and as soon as he said the word, images started replaying in my head and he could tell that I had. I hate how he can just read my mail like that, but I guess that's a good thing. He started telling me about how he got caught up in it when he was in high school and that he still had junk in his memory from way back then that he wished he could get out. In addition to being able to relate to what my brother said and feeling like a little "perv" all the time, I noticed that I was starting to lose respect for my lady friends. I didn't start hitting them or cursing at them or anything, but it seemed like all I wanted to do was manipulate them so that I could get what I wanted. My whole personality began to take a change for the worse. Anyway, with the help of my nosey brother and my complete hatred of feeling out of control, I started cutting some stuff (and some people) off.

The only good thing that came out of the whole thing is that I am a lot more sensitive to how much garbage is out there in the movies, music and advertising. The culture portrays women as cheap pieces of meat, men as vicious dogs in search for as much meat as possible and no one (not even the ladies) seems to have a problem with it. Anyway, I'm not trying to let myself fall into that category. That's why I'm keeping my body and my mind as pure as possible until marriage. I'm cool with being different. I'm an "on-point", responsible and focused young man, not some smoked-up, shufflin', wanna be thug looking to find some broken and confused, grown-up little girl to perform as my personal circus freak. When I find my strong, beautiful, classy, intellectual, woman of my dreams in a few years, I want her to know that the fact that I was man enough to wait for her before we were married, is proof that I will be man enough to love, cherish and honor her after we get married.

Facts:


  • About 75% of the men and at least 55% of the women involved in acquaintance rapes had been drinking or taking drugs just before the attack. (+/-)

    Source: Robin Warshaw. 1994. I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape. New York: HarperPerennial.

  • Teens 14 and younger who use alcohol are twice as likely to have sex than those who don't. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)

  • Teens 14 and younger who use drugs are four times likelier to have sex than those who don't. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)

  • Teens 15 and older who drink are seven times likelier to have sexual intercourse and twice as likely to have it with four or more partners than non-drinking teens. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)

  • Teens 15 and older who use drugs are five times likelier to have sexual intercourse and three times likelier to have it with four or more partners than those who don't. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)

  • 63% of teens who use alcohol and 70% of teens who are frequent drinkers have had sex, compared to 26% of those who never drank. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)

  • 72% of teens who use drugs and 81% of those who use them heavily have had sex, compared to 36% who never used drugs. (+/-)

    The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA)